{pretty, happy, funny, real}

It can be a bit discouraging knowing anything I dress the kids (or myself) in will be soaked through within hours; the joys of kids with reflux. Multiple soaked outfits a day times two babies requires a fair amount of clothes, even if we run wash every day. With two babies in the same size, the cost of clothing to keep them dry, warm, and clean could really add up, so to keep myself from leaving them in stained sleepers all day I’ve been playing a bit of a game putting together their (economical) outfits and recording them each day. Between hand-me-downs, thrift stores (there’s an amazing one with giant bins of good baby things nearby!), and gifts, clothing twins can still be done very affordably. I think the only things I’ve bought new were four shirts (all $5 or under, and two with a $10 off coupon) from Old Navy. Feel free to join in the clothing game or chime in with your favorite ways to clothe your kids well but affordably – I’m all ears!

PRETTY/REAL

The babies are pretty, the piles of laundry they endlessly create are real…

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The Clothes Game: Boy romper – free, hand-me-down. Socks – gifts. Girl snowflake sweater – 50¢ from the thrift store. Red leggings – hand-me-down. Socks – gift. Striped ruffled shirt – $4, Old Navy sale.

 

HAPPY

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We have an open adoption, which means we visit and exchange pictures and letters with the babies’ birthmother on a regular basis. We had our first post-placement visit yesterday at a Chik Fil A in the “big city” an hour and a half away. Open adoption certainly deserves a post of its own, but for now we are happy that the twins can know their birthmother. Studies and experience have shown that the old style of adoption where birthmothers were never heard from again (and children were often lied to about being adopted) were typically far more destructive than dealing with complex but tangible relationships with known birthparents. Their birthmother, was, of course, happy to see the babies who have grown and thrived over the last three months. And we, meanwhile, were also happy to see clear signs of the babies’ attachment to us as parents from this visit. In the adoption context, attachment means the child’s recognition of their adoptive parents as their parents, and all other people as strangers – something that can get more and more difficult the older a child is and the more transitions they’ve been through (our babies are on their fifth home/caregiver) before adoption. While our babies were calm with their birthmother (as with most other people they meet), they lit up when returned to our arms and cuddled all afternoon – a very good sign of a well-formed attachment in the adoption setting! Attachment and adoption – yet another post all its own…

And of course, the babies are quite attached to each other already:

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The Clothes Game: Red/Blue boy’s Oshkosh shirt – gift. Khaki cargo pants – thrifted, gift. Hanna Anderson dress and leggings – gift. Onesies – gifts.

FUNNY

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Being a twin means you always have a playmate. Sometimes it means your playmate gets a firm grip on your nose though. Lucky for her, he doesn’t have much fine motor control and can’t keep a hold for long…

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The Clothes Game: Embroidered dress/tunic – 50¢, thrifted. Yellow pants – hand-me-downs. Boy’s striped hat – 20¢, thrifted (back when we brought the kids home with a sleeper each and nothing to keep them warm – now it just protects the linens from their freshly-oiled hair). Navy shirt – handmedown. Knitted pants – 50¢, thrifted (so happy I found these – they keep little babies rolling around on the floor so warm in winter!). Socks – gifts.

REAL

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Bottles, bottles, always more bottles to clean, sterilize, assemble, and fill. To any parents dealing with twins and bottle-feeding, we highly recommend investing in enough bottles to last at least two days at a time. When we started we only had three small bottles each from the adoption agency. Life was a constant race to wash and sterilize everything for the next round of feedings while being serenaded by wailing infants. We ordered several extra packs of bottles, and fill up everything for the day assembly-line style – it saves on both time and stress when all you have to do is tip in some powder at meal times.

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9 thoughts on “{pretty, happy, funny, real}

  1. Oh my. They are the SWEETEST!

    Hi. I am Rebecca from Renaissance and I am joining up for the first time for {P.H.F.R} so I thought I would pop over and say Hello. How could I not with such cuties staring back at me?

    Hope you have a wonderful day. Give those babies a kiss for me! 😉

  2. They are gorgeous! Your pictures are also sweet, and how wonderful to hear the story of visiting with their birth mother. A fascinating topic for me because I know of so many different adoptive situations

    • Yes, we had no idea about the number of types of adoption out there until we started researching our own. I think we found a good fit for us and our babies, but it’s not an easy set of choices to make!

  3. Thrifting definitely the way to go – also ebay, sometimes people sell off bundles of clothes. I also think it pays to keep an eye out for a couple of sizes up. You can leave the routine clothing until they are almost in that size, but keep looking for those extra special items. Oh, also check out whether any mums and bubs groups near you hold ‘nearly new’ sales.

    We, rather stupidly, got rid of all our baby clothes (really only the girls ones, as Tom Kitten had only finished with one size when we did it), only to decide about a month later that maybe we really weren’t done having babies! Economically it makes sense to stop now, but it is not what are hearts are telling us:)

    I have been beating myself up about it, but as my husband said – in the context of raising a child, clothing them for the first year of life (which is actually all the sizes we donated) is not that big a deal – a lot of them were thrifted first time round anyway. There are a few outfits I am pretty devasted we got rid of – we were being super ruthless, but I kept most of the really special dresses. I am on the op-shop hunt now, just gathering one or two things when I see them.

    • We haven’t checked eBay for lots, but that’s a great idea. I also like the idea of getting “special” items for the bigger sizes when you see them, while holding off on other items. I’m never quite sure how far ahead to buy.

      How frustrating to have lost your favorites, though! We’re of the camp that economics can always stretch for another sweet baby – my friends raised 12 lovely kids on one salary, which gives me hope whenever we think about the future and our hopes of a large family :-). Here’s hoping we hear about another little sibling for Ginger and Tom Kitten!

  4. Okay, could they be ANY cuter? I’m drooling at the adorableness. So so so precious!! (And now I sound like a stalker…oops). 🙂

    Do bibs help much with the reflux? We kept bibs on our two 24/7 during the terrible teething/drool/spitup phase. (Our son had reflux too).

    And oh Lord, the Dr. Browns’ bottles. Wonderful for the gas but terrible to clean!! I did the same…ordered a ton of em and washed them in rounds. I’d rinse after feedings, stick them in a bin under the sink (they so rapidly take over the counter!), then wash them every other day in a hot soapy sink and then sterilize in boiling water. Phew am I glad we’re past the Dr. Brown’s phase now! As soon as they could handle other bottles, we switched to something easier to clean.

    • We keep bibs on our boy almost all of the time, but he truly has a magicians talent for hitting anywhere but the bib – over his shoulder, down his collar, past the bib to his belly…

      I can’t wait til we can phase out Dr. Brown’s. I have to admit after a few weeks of sterilizing them “properly” I went the backup route and just rinsed them well and washed them in the dishwasher on hot with a hot dry. Of course, there are so many bottles that we end up with almost no room for the grown-ups dishes…

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